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I would send you my instructions on how to make a 6 year old, but I don't want to frighten/overwhelm you!

Lucy is a cutie!

Hey, where'd everybody go?

Too burned out from yesterday's discussion?

Maybe. But we should celebrate - it's the one-year anniversary of the Coastopia post. It's up to 751 comments. Man oh manischewitz!

has it been one year already? not sure if this is cause for celebration or mourning. in any event thank you ian for a year of interesting reading.

Best post of the week.

Lucy is adorable, as always.

Sometimes, looking at pictures of her is painful for me, because I have been trying, unsuccessfully, to get pregnant for approximately the same amount of time that Lucy has been alive. I have a loving spouse, a big, warm, and ready extended family, a baby room, and no baby. Having read, in yesterday's discussion, about people essentially having the problem of "too much" pregnancy, or being pregnant "at the wrong time," and then viewing happily posted pictures of a healthy and well-timed baby, well, it's a little too much for me today.

Same six months, different people.

You know, J. Boogie never answered my question about why he reads Ian's blog. I really would like to know why people come here just to bang their heads into a brick wall underneath political posts. But that's a conversation for another day, because there's an irresistible Lucy up there right now, and hats off to her.

Ian: Quick question with no ill-intent behind it, just flashed in my brain. Have you ever thought about what might happen if Lucy decides to rebel against her dad by holding opposite political or social views? Or even if it is not rebellion per se, but just that she thinks completely differently. I know it is a long way off, but I guess as parents we have to raise our children to be aware of social and political issues, engage in discourse, question them about their opinions, let them try to convince us while we try to convince them if the opinions diverge, and then let them decide for themselves. I grew up in a household that did not have such discussion. I wonder if the proper way to teach is to say: I believe X and here is why I do. Or is the proper was to say: Some people believe X and here is why, some believe Y and here is why, others believe Z and here is why. I guess I have some time to figure it out.

"J. Boogie never answered my question about why he reads Ian's blog."

Speaking for myself, just in case anyone was wondering the same about me, I read Ian's blog because I like his writing. If it weren't for the political rants, which I can't resist, I'd just be a lurker.

Anonymous reader,

I have been looking for a spouse for much longer than that, someone to have a warm family with, someone kind and creative whom I can respect, to have a baby with. Someday I will be nearly too old, and so I probably will have to have one on my own, and struggle with all those issues that both parents still find hard.

And no, I haven't been too picky or rejected any relationships because they were not perfect. I just haven't found the right person to marry.

So there are all kinds of problems out there. Not being able to conceive is hard. Six months is not that long, though - it will probably happen very soon. At least you have someone wonderful to raise your child with.

I don't want to get married just to get married. I do want to have babies someday, though.

Matt, it's true, I was wondering. Thanks for answering. Although you keep your posts within respectable bounds, which J. Boogie doesn't, and I don't understand (if I find something I'm violently allergic to, I avoid it).

The whole infertility thing is so strange to me...that some folks get knocked up by walking into Babies 'r us, and for others, it never happens. We have a beautiful toddler, and everything with him went like clockwork. Got pregant fast, no morning sickness, didn't gain a ton of weight, then lost it all by 1 month after birth, etc. But now, trying for our second one, its not happening. Two straight miscarriages for no identifiable reason. Yes, we're blessed to have one..he's the light of our life, but its still disheartening. Luck of the draw, I guess...

Age generally makes the difference. Those people who get preggers easily are often in their early 20s. Unfortunately, today, most people are still trying to figure out their lives in their 20s.