11/2/06
A late evening and a busy weekend are forcing me into a CODE WORD question.
How about this: If you're currently in a relationship, think back to before you were in your current situation, back when you were just dating around. You're on a "first date" again with someone interesting.
What is the one thing you'd never want your date to know, at least right away? Feel free to use a pseudonym in the comments section if you're bashful...
That I've been picturing her naked the entire evening.
Knowing how it's occasionally come back to haunt me over the years by way of snide comments under her breath, methinks I would have either lied or completely withheld from my wonderful and lovely wife the true number of women who "came" (or at least faked it really well for the sake of my ego) before her. And, no, it was not divulged on a first date, but when we were platonic friends before dating.
Anyone else ever have THAT conversation with their spouse?
BTW, I'm all for the CODE WORD and cute pictures this week, but I'm expecting some healthy and vigorous political debate next week in light of the elections. (hint, hint)
That I actually enjoy Easy Cheese.
That I was a sperm donar while in college
That I was in the band in high school.
That I snore.
...that I was a not-so-suave rube of a virgin, ridiculously hung(over), and obliviously w/out my misplaced wallet(and fake ID), ... and that fortuitous providence alone had blown that twenty dollar bill beneath my feet somewhere b/w Ehringhaus and Franklin Street, narrowly affording a first date Pepper's Pizza and Ben and Jerry's cone. Blue Heaven indeed.
I guess it would be best to ease someone into the cold hard truth, which is that I'm a fly-off-the-handle paranoid neurotic insecure bundle of anxiety with depressive tendencies and a family history of mental illness.
But people tend to like me anyway.
ditto bozoette mary
i would want them to know how highly i prize kindness. as i kept dating, i found that sometimes i would meet people who were good looking, creative, and/or smart, but they just didn't care about treating other people kindly, especially those in worse situations than them. i couldn't spend my life with someone who was cruel to others, even if they treated me well.
actually, i don't know if i would say this on a first date, but in an internet ad i might.
That I blog.
Alan, that would be my response if the question was, "What would you HIDE from your date"!
That I wish life was a musical and we would all randomly burst into song. I would currently be singing "Why, Oh Why did that bitch rear end my car and jack up my shoulder?" followed by the soft lullabye "Please Ben take a nap so Mommy can wash her hair".
that I cry when I watch Rudy
That I don't want to have kids.
I would never want a first date to know that I have horrible feet, perennially infected with not only athlete's foot, but that disgusting toenail fungus. I am a closed toe shoe kinda gal... Gross, huh?
OOPs, I was the one who misread it, not Alan. Sorry! I read it as what would you WANT your date to know.
No wonder everyone is afraid to answer. ;)
that i covet my complete Whacky Pack collection and my Mad Magazines
That I was married before, because then I'd have to explain that whole experience.
Dpdir, fear not--this is a huge selling point with many women. I mean, so I've HEARD.
that i have ocd and am frequently late because i have to check things. that the scars are not from car accidents.
Where's regular commenter LFMD?
That is a question that has nothing to do with the topic du jour. Genuinely interested in LFMD's whereabouts. miss her. :)
Ditto Josie's observation. Where art thou, LFMD?
That I don't know shit.
VOTE!!
That I've had a breast reduction. I mean, they may eventually know, but it's so nice to be able to out on dates now and have my breasts not be the center of attention.
I guess the other thing is that while I think of myself as generally smart, I can be kind of clueless at times about current events, history, politics....and it embarrasses me sometimes.
Hi Josie and Beth! I am still lurking. The Management of My Insurance Job sent a company-wide notice recently that they were "watching" us all (all 2,000 of us!) and are strongly discouraging "internet use in the workplace." Big Brother Lives! I am paranoid by nature, and I am a wee bit afraid of being dooced. Sadly, the only thing left for me to do from 7am to 3pm is work. Damn it all to hell!
I try to save my internet time for after work, but that is when my real life as Busy Mama starts, so I have not kept up. I am trying though! I miss you all!
As for my answer to the CODE WORD question, it has been so long since my dating life that I can't remember what I used to hide. Oh, I know. I was a really late bloomer, and I did not kiss a boy until I was 20. I tried to keep my lack of dating experience on the down-low so as not to appear too weird. I don't know why I bothered, because if you haven't kissed a boy by the time you are 20, it kind of shows.
LFMD - my company blocked XTCIAN.com awhile back and I've resorted to reading it off my web-enabled phone. I still read most days, but posting is difficult with these tiny keys. It has taken almost 3 minutes to type this post!
That I'm married.
Actually, I guess my date would be my wife. So I guess I wouldn't want her to know that while she was away I'd been ignoring the dachshund.
My bad: I see now I didn't attend the instructions, and my last comments aren't even technically answers to the CODE WORD question. Back in the day I'd least want it known that I'd never kissed and was socially dysfunctional.
I think the first date is too early for them to know that I don't like pets.