2/8/07
It has been a crazy week, full of writing, joyous celebration and weird weather. We are all leaving town for a few days and will see you after the three-day weekend! And if, say, Annie wants to start today's topic in the comments, I will be reading from Colorado...
Shouldn't you be watching where you're skiing rather than reading this on you Treo? Have a nice weekend!
Annie, where is the rough cut of my hooping video request? Inquiring minds (and Caveman) want to know.
Since she didn't start an entry, here is a link that DFB's & T's sent to me. It's another of those infamous de-motivational posters:
Dammit! I only just logged on now. Topic...uh...uh...fnbbbbbttt
Wait! I've got it! Last night I went to see the inimitable Squirrel Nut Zippers play for the first time in FIVE YEARS at the Cat's Cradle. They were phenomenal--played better than ever, energy through the roof, tractor-trailers'-worth of stage magic...everyone dancing...yes, people at a show in Chapel Hill dancing...
At any rate, two members of the band were conspicuously absent due to the fact that they have spent the last five years SUING the rest of the band for various perceived wrongs (they won a large chunk of change in a civil suit a few years ago and have very recently brought MORE charges--federal this time--against the other members).
Now, without commenting on who did what to whom when or what they might deserve for it, I'll tell you what I was thinking about last night watching these great musicians come together again: Most of you know that the most visible "face" of the band was that of previously married couple Jimbo and Katherine, and that their acrimonious parting five years ago was the straw that broke up the band. And hence, it was their willingness to perform together again that made last night's old-school magic possible.
Leaving the club, I was pondering (not for the first time) the phenomenon of forgiveness, its incredible power, and how often we avoid it. I was thinking about those guys, the other members, the sue-ers, sitting at home (or somewhere) last night, missing out on the great time, the palpable shared memories and love. I was thinking about Jim and Katherine and the pain they must have had to overcome to get to the point of being able to play onstage together again. Most of us know how hard it is to get over a garden-variety 2-year relationship--let alone 8 or 10 years, sharing a career and a child. It couldn't have been easy for them.
And yet...it just made your heart sing to see the band together again! You could see it on everyone's face. And forgiveness made that possible for them and for all of us.
I'm sure that the sue-ers have made their peace with themselves and their priorities, and I'm sure that I could understand their reasons for doing what they did. But I sure as hell would not trade places with them--no way.
Shoot--I just now realize I didn't ask a question-of-the-day, or answer GFWD's inquiry.
For the record, I meant to invite people to comment on forgiveness. Even though I was hours late to the party.
GFWD (and caveman), weather intervenes! Making videos outside is much better in every way. So we might have to wait for a few warmer days to roll around. I can manage to hoop outside in the upper 50s, unless it's windy. Do not lose heart! Videos-a-comin'!
Hello folks. It looks like you already have a few Gregs on the blog, but I take it there's room for another. I was at Chapel Hill from 86-90 and came across one of Ian's "Why I still hate dook" articles after the game this week. I enjoyed Wednesday Child while at the hill and emailed Ian this week for the hell of it. I don't have much to say, but thought I'd introduce myself fwiw. Hello!
P.S: I can't forgive myself for the extreme disdain I feel for everything dook.
Don't know if anyone will catch this once a new entry goes up...
Fingers crossed that this link works:
http://www.charlotte.com//multimedia/charlotte/KRT_packages/archive/sports/uncwake0210/index.html
Oh, and this article by my BIL:
http://tarheelblue.cstv.com/sports/m-baskbl/spec-rel/021007aab.html
Kinda says it all, doesn't it?
We decided this was going to be our 19 month-old son's first official Carolina basketball game and it was well worth it for halftime alone. Thrilled to have pictures and ticket stubs for the baby book, of course, but the real joy is thinking about one day sharing with adult Connor just what he "saw" today.
Still feeling *chills...*
Next up, baptism by fire...the dook game! I now know that the trick is skipping naptime and loading up a small ziplock with mini-pretzles and cereal. I almost had a meltdown when the bagcheckers attempted to tell me I couldn't bring food in. I let them know in no uncertain terms that it wasn't food, it was toddler magic in a bag.
Hi Annie. Helen and I are still hooping in the burbs of Maryland!
Anyway, I don't have much to say about forgiveness, except that I wish I could do more of it, and I am very thankful to have been the recipient of much forgiveness from family and friends. One of my worst traits is that I can grind an axe with the best of them, and while I might seem to "forgive", I never "forget." Which kind of goes against the whole concept of forgiveness. I can harbor a grudge like nobody's business.
My inquiring mind wants to know. Do Tessa's TX socialite relatives travel in the same circles of J. Howard Marshall's relatives? Just wondering how many degrees of separation I am from Anna Nicole.
LFMD,
Instead of six degrees, you are about six feet from Anna Nicole. And yes, I am going to have to smoke a turd in hell for that last comment.
GFWD - Bad! You know you are interested. . . . . who is the Baby Daddy? Will Anna's mom and her toothless sister be granted custody rights? What about Zsa Zsa (who I erroneously thought was dead)?
This saga will be the the Little Gloria Vanderbilt story for the new millennium! Mark my words! In fact, I think that I will send Anderson Cooper my idea for a story. . . comparing the custody battle over his mother with Daniellynn's situation. I am sure he will be thrilled with the comparison!
Don't know if people saw this, but Billy from time out died.
http://www.chapelhillnews.com/100/story/5338.html
Ian, I can't believe you cited the "I'd slap your face, but shit splatters" t-shirt. That's become a favorite put-down between me and the wife, and she went to Yale...
Sad times.
Forgiveness is the act of freeing yourself by letting go of the anger and pain you believe to be caused by someone else. It is a personal decision that cannot be exercised simply by uttering "I forgive you" but rather requires the purging of evil and hate from your mind and heart.
I think forgiveness is generally overrated. Just an easy and passive way of letting somebody off the hook so you can go back to being comfortable.
